Dating separated men with children
Evan tells it to us straight - with humor, with passion, and in a way that will stick with you - that will actually make a huge difference for you.
We women have been sold the lie for so long that we have no power in relationships - and Evan turns that lie around and gives you your power back.
He added: “The bond between fathers and children is just as important and we would question the evidence Ms Leach is citing for the primacy of the maternal bond.” He said her argument did not accord with common sense was described her claims as “worrying.” Leach has previously drawn criticism for her previous bestselling book, Your Baby & Child: From Birth to Age Five, published.
In this she claimed only mothers could care properly for their children.
He not only gives you your power back, he shows you exactly how to use it - and what's even MORE important, how NOT to use it.
I love his "tough love" - because sometimes it's hard to see how much power we actually have, and because so many "gurus" are afraid to say the truth about men and relationships.
She argues that “When people say that it’s ‘only fair’ for a father and mother to share their five-year-old daughter on alternate weeks, they mean it is fair to the adults – who see her as a possession and her presence as their right – not that it is fair to the child.” Ms Leach said when lawyers bid for their client to have overnight access with their young children they are ignoring evidence about the distressing and damaging impact on the child.
Leach said the rights of the child must always outweigh those of the parents and added: “It can be damaging to the child to divide time equally between the parents.” Ian Maxwell, from Families Need Fathers, told the Independent on Sunday that society had moved on from classic attachment theory when bonds between mother and child were seen as the strongest.
At the root of it, the same sense of insecurity that made the guy obsessed with finding out if you like him is now scaring him into thinking that you’re going to “take his freedom away.” Generally speaking, most guys have a fear of being “trapped” in a relationship, but in this particular scenario you’re dealing with a guy who’s actions are especially dictated by avoiding unpleasant situations as a primary motivator.
If you start getting on his case (“Why didn’t you call? ”, etc.) he will feel trapped and suffocated and start pulling away.
what with climbing in and out of the divorce dating pool for years.
Unless of course you're looking for a fling (like him), looking to experiment (as is he), or looking to get your heart broken. Do pay attention to what your kids think of him, and what his kids think of you.
Be particularly cautious if he's already looking for Spouse #2. Periods of adjustment are to be expected, especially if things heat up.
And one remains a trusted friend to this day (and I'm glad).